Monday, May 10, 2010

All Part of Growing Up...

I have to make an admission. I have been a cyber bully. .::sigh::.

Not in the same way as the teenagers who torment their classmates so much to drive them into depression and worse, but in that kind of silly way that a grown-ass woman should not be taking part in.

Part of my quest in life is to grow: to grow in my rediscovered Christianity, as a mother, and as an adult. I can admit when I've made a mistake. In this particular case, I do not think my actions have hurt anyone, but the point is that they could have. And it's kind of a shame that I have acted this way.

I'm a small, small part of a well known online community of message boards. At any given moment there could be anywhere from fifty to five hundred of us online: mothers of all ages, shapes, experiences from all around the world. And sometimes we talk about what we're there for: our beautiful children. But a lot of times we turn there out of boredom, and that's when things can turn sour. Usually it involves someone making fun of someone else, or decrying another mom's parenting choices. I have taken part occasionally in this behaviour, and I'm not proud.

I think what the internet and it's various forms of free expression (facebook, twitter, blogs, message boards) invite is that feeling that we can say anything we want. And sometimes we feel the need to be more brutally honest than tact and common sense allow us to be in real life, so we forget that somewhere at another computer sits another new mom just as happy and stressed and overwhelmed and emotional as we are.

So I'm trying to turn a new leaf. Sure, I'll probably roll my eyes in my head when I read something that I find asinine. I'll just try keeping the non-constructive comments to myself the same way I would if I were standing there face to face. Sometimes we all need a good reminder.


  1. We've all been there.... saying something that we shouldn't have said on there.

    I am really happy with this new blogging/twitter community. I have gotten SO much more out of it. The thing is, without said community... I wouldn't "know" most of you lovely ladies :).

  2. I am glad you posted this, however we will see if you follow it. And again, for your information I have better things to do than post mean things about you on your blog. I am NOT mean to people

  3. Good for you! I think you're a great person and Mother, so I know you can do it. :)

  4. I have not been on the bump in forever, but reading this kinda made me want to check things out. I think we've all cyber-bullied here and there. Dont be too hard on yourself. Besides...some people make it way too easy!